They Got Married in Portugal After a Chance Meeting in NYC

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Sarah LeshnerAugust 14, 2015

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On his first visit to the United States, Rodrigo met Sarah at a group dinner.

Who: Sarah Leshner and Rodrigo Carvalho 

 When: 2010 

 Where: NYC 

 Relationship: Married 

 (As told by Sarah) 

I was single in New York City, so for Memorial Day weekend in 2010, I made plans to go away with some friends. That’s when a different friend told me she was going to meet up with a guy who would be with a big group friends. She thought they were from Brazil, and I work in Latin America, so I thought it could be fun. Plus, I spoke Portuguese, so she wanted me to come along in case the guy she liked was talking about her. 

I changed my plans and went to the dinner, and as it turns out, the guys were all from Portugal. As I panned the room, I saw Rodrigo across the long table and pointed him out to my friend. I thought he was cute and told her that I liked him. Just like that, my friend pretended like we were in the 7thgrade and told everyone in the group that I thought Rodrigo was cute. It was just a matter of time before the message got down to his side of the table, and he came over to talk to me. 

To my surprise, I found out that it was Rodrigo’s first night ever in the U.S. At the time he was living in Poland, and had just arrived in New York City to attend some meetings the following week. He was really jet lagged, but we had had a good conversation that night and made plans to hang out again. We hung out in New York City three times before Rodrigo had to return home. 

To hear him tell it, he fell in love with the U.S. right away. “I didn’t even say a word to these American girls and I hear that one of them likes me,” he always jokes. 

We stayed in touch, but I didn’t know when I was going to see him again. 

Six months later I was planning a trip to Israel with my friend. My job at the time required me to take a 2-week vacation all at once, so since I was only going to Israel for 10 days, I had five extra days at my disposal. I took a leap of faith and messaged Rodrigo to see if he wanted to meet me somewhere. He was totally game, and suggested that we meet in Istanbul. We spent Thanksgiving weekend together in Istanbul, and that’s when we knew that there was something special between us. A couple of weeks later, we saw each other over Christmas in Miami and New York. 

People Born Between 1946 and 1981 Averaged 11 Sexual Partners

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May 7, 2015

In a new study from San Diego University, Hunter College, and the Florida Atlantic University, researchers have found that people born between 1946 and 1981 had 11 sexual partners. This new study showed that people had 11 sexual partners who were born during this time regardless of their ages, but the millennial generation is actually more conservative in terms of sexual partners. The study showed that the millennial generation, which is people born between 1982 and 1999 only had 8 sexual partners on average. While the millennial generation might be having sex with less people overall, the millennial generation is more accepting of premarital sex, and tend not worry about the consequences of premarital sex compared to the older generation.

The researchers looked at records of over 33,000 adults who were monitored for many years, and the views of people about premarital sex began to change in the beginning of the 1970s. The researchers really wanted to know why the millennial generation was having less sexual partners since their views on premarital sex were positive. Jean Twenge, a psychology professor at San Diego State University, said that millennials are having fewer sexual partners because of the fear of sexually transmitted diseases. There is also the fact that millennials tend to lean more towards the friends with benefits angle, which means they have less sexual partners because they are just hooking up with a certain group of people repeatedly.

The researchers also found that the millennial generation is favorable towards homosexuality, which the older generation seems to be more reluctant to embrace because of values and traditions. In 1973, only 11 percent of people were involved in a homosexual relationship, whereas in 2012 that number went up to 44 percent. In 2012, 51 percent of women said they were homosexual, while only 35 percent of men said they were part of the homosexual population. So not only are the millennials more accepting of the homosexual lifestyle, but it appears more people are willing to accept that they are homosexual too.

Twenge also said that the culture shift of today compared to 70 years ago is why premarital sex is more acceptable. Twenge said that when you listen to songs these days, a lot of songs talk about “me” and “you” whereas back in the day the music was more focused on a “we” aspect. This is due to the society shifting towards personal needs and wants as opposed to living up to the standards of conventional social rules regarding relationships and overall attitudes.

When you look at the millennial generation, you have to remember that the fear of sexually transmitted diseases could be shifting people towards the friends with benefits angle. A lot of women especially feel that it is better to be with someone you know sexually than a new partner, since you are more likely to know what sexually transmitted diseases they have, if any. If you have had sex with a certain person for a few years and have not gotten any diseases, then you are more likely to feel comfortable with having sex with them later on down the road.

Although a lot of millennials are still not wearing condoms, which could also be due to the comfort level a lot of people feel when they have been with the same person on and off for years as a friend with benefits. When you look at the older generation, it was more accepting to have more sexual partners because sexually transmitted diseases were not as big of a thing as they are now, and these things were also not talked about openly like they are now. There were likely a lot of people who had diseases 60 years ago, but because sexuality was such a taboo subject, it was never something talked about, even with your sexual partner. The good news out of this study is that the millennial generation isn’t getting around as much sexually as the older generations, and this could help stop the spread of sexually transmitted diseases somewhat.

Las Vegas strip club recruits recent high school graduates

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Updated 12:29 pm, Saturday, June 6, 2015

LAS VEGAS (AP) — New advertisements outside Little Darlings strip club in Las Vegas encourage recent high school graduates to apply, promoting stripping as a way to earn money for college.

KVVU-TV reports (http://bit.ly/1GfNimN ) that Little Darlings manager Rick Marzullo says the ads fit in with the character of Las Vegas.

The signs have slogans like "Now auditioning the class of 2015" and "Pay your way through college."

Marzullo says he is offering a way for young women 18 and older to make good money in a struggling economy.

He says entertainers at his club make up to $1,000 a night and he has noticed more and more women turning to stripping to help with rising college costs.

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Information from: KVVU-TV, http://www.kvvu.com

The Pleasure of Pain

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The real reason French women have stopped sunbathing topless

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According to French Elle, women have stopped sunbathing topless in France. Two French women reveal why they do, and don't, and how little it has to do with health scares

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Brigitte Bardot sunbathing on the beach in 1960s. Photograph: Bettmann/Corbis

Is topless sunbathing over? It certainly is in France, according to French Elle, if the coverline on its new summer issue is to be believed: "La Fin Du Topless Sur La Plage?" – which translates, verbatim, to "Is this the end of toplessness on the beach?"

According to the magazine the answer is "yes", and the reasons are threefold. First, an increased concern over health and the dangers of skin cancer; second, the "pornified" perception of topless women (indeed Elle suggests the death of the monokini – ie swimming briefs – was linked to the idea that topless women are seen as "loose"); and third, the rise of breast-affiliated activism – chiefly Femen, who use their naked breasts as a means of attracting attention to various causes, and Free the Nipple, a recent campaign that encourages women to go topless to end the stigma surrounding female bodies. "Topless sunbathing was seen by women as a new freedom in St Tropez in the 1960s," says Elle. And now that they're covering up? It's a "worrying sign of a regression in the place of women".

Ever since Brigitte Bardot took off her top on the French Riviera in the 1960s, the correlation between topless sunbathing and women's liberation has been entrenched in French culture as a sign of true equality. Many others followed suit and the breast and beach were reclaimed. News that so few women are now going topless (just 2% of women under 35 said they did) seems extraordinary – and depressing.

But, according to two French women, it's more than a fear of skin cancer and political activism that has kept them covered up.

Alice Pfeiffer, a 29-year-old Anglo-French journalist (who, incidentallydoes sunbathe topless in Biarritz, Guéthary, Monaco and surfing resort Hossegor), thinks the decline is inextricably linked to social media: "Young women in their 20s do it less because they are aware that ... you can end up topless on your own Facebook wall."

Pfeiffer blames "pop-porn culture – Miley Cyrus to American Apparel, ie aggressive naked imagery of young girls" – for the shift in perception of going topless.

"Globalisation and Americanisation of women's portrayal and sexiness in France has pushed away gentle (and generally harmless) French eroticism towards porno, frontal, hyper-sexualised consciousness," she says. "Nudist, beach-like freedom is not what it used to be ... breasts no longer feel innocent or temporarily asexual."

Though probably universal, this attitude towards topless sunbathing has had the biggest impact in France. It is still the norm in Germany, according to one recent survey, which suggests almost a third of Germans and Austrians sunbathe naked. A straw poll in the UK also suggests it's equally de rigueur: one in six women we asked said they have or would sunbathe topless: "I don't think about skin cancer or being photographed or activism when I go topless," says Jess, 32 of north-west London. "I just want an all-over tan."

Valeria Costa-Kostritsky, a Paris-based writer, is 32 and sunbathes (not topless) in Britanny and Côte d'Azur. She says the change hasn't happened overnight: "I've never seen young women doing it loads. But some women over 50 do." 

Pfeiffer agrees that the shift has been generational: "Family albums here can be a strange thing, as you flip through three generations of bourgeois bra-less women." But she maintains that "French women of most ages have, as far as I can remember, sunbathed topless."

What of the links between breasts and activism? Nudity as a political statement is no new thing – indeed, proverbially speaking, the personal has always been political – but, thanks to the internet, it has become a mainstay in the world of political activism: in France "showing your breasts wisely (a dodgy street will always be a dodgy street, so you have to act responsibly) can be a political statement," says Pfeiffer.

Costa-Kostritsky thinks the decline could be linked to health concerns, but these are less about skin damage and more about vanity: "Women of my generation have always been told that the sun was bad for our skin. But add sun damage to gravity and the fear is you won't have pretty breasts."

Pfeiffer agrees: "The ones who do it all look the same – slim and small breasts, which contributes to keeping a social order and aesthetic norm in place."

But both agree that the issue is not one of self-consciousness. "[French women] feel comfortable doing it!" says Pfeiffer. The real reason French women cover up, says Costa-Kostritsky, is because "it makes uncovering them for a lover more interesting".

Escort charged in Google executive's heroin death

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Jessica Guynn, USATODAY8:06 p.m. EDT July 9, 2014

SAN FRANCISCO — An alleged prostitute has been charged with manslaughter for injecting a Google executive with heroin and then leaving him to die of an overdose on board his yacht.

Alix Tichelman, 26, who is being held on manslaughter and other charges, did not enter a plea Wednesday when she appeared in a Santa Cruz, Calif., courtroom in a red jailhouse jumpsuit. 

Her bail has been set at $1.5 million. She is due back in court next week.

The sensational charges rocked Silicon Valley where Forrest Timothy Hayes, 51, was a longtime — albeit not well-known — executive.

Hayes, who also worked for Apple and Sun Microsystems, died Nov. 23 on his 50-foot yacht, Escape, in the Santa Cruz harbor.

His body was discovered the following morning by the yacht's captain.

Police say security footage from the yacht shows Hayes suffering "medical complications" after shooting up heroin.

Instead of trying to get help for Hayes, Tichelman is seen gathering her belongings including drugs and needles, downing a glass of wine and lowering the blinds before leaving the yacht, Santa Cruz Police Deputy Chief Steve Clark said.

"She showed no regard for the victim," Clark told KXTV-TV in Sacramento.

TANGLED WEB: Hayes seemed a model of Silicon Valley success

THE SUSPECT: 26-year-old faces manslaughter charge

A Google executive shooting up drugs and hiring prostitutes contrasts sharply with the spic-and-span public image of Silicon Valley as a place where geeks in hoodies sleep under their desks and devote their lives to inventing the next big thing.

But people here say that illicit activity is not uncommon.

Tichelman had an "ongoing prostitution relationship" with Hayes that began when she met Hayes on SeekingArrangement.com, which specializes in connecting "sugar daddies" and "sugar babies," authorities say.

An undercover policeman lured Tichelman back to Santa Cruz by posing as a client and offering her $1,000 for sex.

Tichelman, who was living with her parents in Folsom, Calif., was arrested Friday.

Police say they are also investigating Tichelman's possible involvement in a similar death in a different state.

Her attorney, Diana August, did not respond to a request for comment from USA TODAY.

Assistant District Attorney Rafael Vazquez said authorities could file more serious charges.

"The investigation is ongoing," Vazquez said.

Tichelman, 26, described herself on social media as a makeup artist, writer, model, hustler, exotic dancer and "baddist bitch."

She was fond of posing for pursed-lipped selfies with dyed red hair, tattoos and black lingerie.

Tichelman had a fixation with fictional blood spatter expert and serial killer on cable television's Dexter. And she wrote poetry about drugs, even an ode to heroin.

At least on the surface, Hayes seemed the model of Silicon Valley success.

Married for 17 years to his wife Denise and the father of five children, he started out in the automotive industry in his native Michigan before segueing into tech.

After stints with Sun Microsystems and Apple, he joined Google, where he was an executive with the Internet giant's high-profile X division responsible for experimental "moonshot" projects such as Google Glass and driverless cars.

Google put out a statement late Wednesday: "Our hearts go out to Forrest's family during this difficult time."​

Hayes' other former employers did not respond to requests for comment from USA TODAY.

"You showed us how to be better engineers and a better team. It is wonderful to reflect on all the advice and direction you shared in our short time on Glass," one Google X engineer wrote on a memorial website. "Your impact and focus was tremendous, but your touch for inspiring those around you is what made you an incredible leader."

Friends remembered a decisive man who lived fully.

Fed up with his 40-minute commute from Santa Cruz to Google's headquarters in Mountain View, he bought a hybrid Chevy Volt in order to access car-pool lanes.

"We all know Forrest, he is a very practical guy, yet impatient to fix the issue," wrote Mahesh Krishnaswamy on the memorial website. "He always came up with fairly simple and elegant solutions — very candid in his opinion, yet reasonable in his judgment and caring with his interactions."

A family obituary published in the Santa Cruz Sentinel in January remembered Hayes as someone who "enjoyed spending time with his family at home and on his boat."

Contributing: Marco della Cava, Donna Leinwand Leger and KXTV-TV in Sacramento.

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Lawyer: Va. cops want to photograph teen's erect penis

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Michael Winter, USA TODAY8:37 p.m. EDT July 9, 2014

Virginia police have obtained a search warrant to photograph the erect penis of a 17-year-old facing felony child-pornography charges for sexting an explicit video to his 15-year-old girlfriend, the boy's lawyer says.

If he doesn't cooperate, the Manassas City Police Department has threatened to take him to a hospital and have him aroused with an injection, attorney Jessica Harbeson Foster toldThe Washington Post.

Police already photographed the teen's genitals against his will when he was arrested in late January, she said.

The boy is due back in juvenile court in Prince William County next Tuesday.

Wednesday night, Manassas City authorities, who previously have had no comment, defended the filing of child-pornography charges and addressed the search warrant.

"It is not the policy of the Manassas City Police or the Commonwealth Attorney's Office to authorize invasive search procedures of suspects in cases of this nature and no such procedures have been conducted in this case," the statement said.

The teen was charged with manufacturing and distributing child pornography after his girlfriend's mother called police. He allegedly sent the girl "pornographic videos ... after being repeatedly being told to stop," the statement added.

Foster said the boy sent the video after she sent him photos of herself; the content has not been described. The girl has not been charged.

Officers seized the boy's iPhone and iPad when they arrested him. He told his aunt he tried to refuse to have police take photos of his genitals but was told that if he didn't cooperate "they would do it by force," his aunt told WRC-TV, which first reported the story.

Late last week, a Northern Virginia magistrate approved a new search warrant seeking for more photographs of the boy's genitals to compare with other evidence.

""The prosecutor's job is to seek justice," Foster told the Post. "How does this advance the interest of the Commonwealth? This is a 17-year-old who goes to school every day, plays football, has never been in trouble with the law before. Now he's saddled with two felonies and the implication that he's a sexual predator."

The boy's court-appointed guardian said Manassas City police want to prosecute alleged child pornography by making their own child porn.

"The irony is incredible," Carlos Flores Laboy told the Post.